It's okay if you're not gay

Yes, I am finally back. I've had so very many things to say, but not enough time to share those things - at least not as in depth as I'd like to. And I'm really not good at doing things half-assed.
Anyway, here I am, still gay (but of course) and that's okay. But it's also okay if you're NOT gay. See, I've been accused of thinking everybody's gay. You've probably been met with the line "Oh, you people..." because really, it not about YOU, and you might as well realize that at any given time, the things you say and do, reflect on all gay people. Anyway, the line is "Oh, you people think everyone is gay!" And if you haven't heard it yet, then just wait for it. It will happen. A couple of years ago, this is definitely the words you would've heard, if you'd dare imply that Portia de Rossi was gay - and we all know how Mrs. DeGeneres identifies now, don't we?! Yes, I am feeling smug about that one. Very!

But really, I don't think everyone is gay. Not at all. However, I would like to shoot this back "Oh, you straight people, think no one is gay!" And this is something that has bothered me for a while and now I have a very current example where this is extremely evident: Pretty Little Liars!



Oh, I LOVE the show... Really, I'm addicted to it! Just like millions of other people. And like the rest of "my people", I love seeing a gay character, Emily Fields (the girl resting on the red velvet chaise with the most seductive smile in the picture below, played by the gorgeous Shay Mitchell), completely out and proud and so very sure of who she is.



This is amazing and a very new thing in television. Particularly in teen shows. And where the girl is drop dead gorgeous. I mean, not a single episode has gone by - since she came out and said she was gay - where she hasn't said this out loud again and/or kissed a girl. There is no doubt that this girl is gay, because she has no doubt that she's gay. And I love it!




But if you look at the comments regarding who Emily should be with - i.e. when the producers ask this question in the official Facebook group and give the choices Paige or Maya - then the name "Toby" continues to come up. Umm, hallo, she's GAY! And yes, we, the gay people, want Spencer to find a nice girl as well, and we joke (and hope and dream) about this, but we don't seriously think or believe this is an actual option. People DO however seem to think Toby (a guy) is a possible love interest for Emily (a gay girl). Why is that? To quote a recent episode of US Skins "What don't you get about being a lesbian?" You would think that even if the words aren't sinking in, then the actions should. And there's been quite a bit of action - enjoy:





Even the producers know people still think of Emily as an "open sexuality" girl, so they include Toby as an option when asking who the viewers want to see Emily with. This irked me at first, but then I realized they just want to know how many are hanging on to this idea of Toby and Emily. And I understand, respect and accept that. Hell, I want to know the answer to that one as well.



 My point - and once again, I do have one - is simply this: Why is it that being gay is all too often perceived as a temporary feeling, a fleeting emotion or "a phase"? But being straight, on the other hand, is considered the constant. The sexuality that we are all born with and so this is the starting point and therefor also the place you return to when you're done experimenting. People can marry a person of the same-sex and still, you hear their sexuality questioned. Fine, being with someone of the same sex might not make the person gay, but it certainly DOES mean they're not straight. A person married to someone of the opposite sex however, is always perceived as being straight. But really, they might as well be bisexual, if we go by the standard applied to same-sex couples.

If you're of the belief that we all have a fluid sexuality and are essentially bisexual at birth and have this as the origin, then that's fine by me. I can certainly accept this notion though I have found my place in the spectrum and know that I have "floated" to the gay end of the sexuality pool. And look, right next to me is Emily Fields... kissing a girl and saying "I'm gay". And that makes me proud!

Also, the vast majority of people taking ABCfamily's poll on Emily's love interest is agreeing with me. And that just thrills me to pieces:



Have a great weekend! :o)
- GG

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5 bad habits

Oh yes, I have bad habits, and while they can be annoying, good things often come from them. In other words, while I may need to watch these bad habits and keep them in check, there isn't necessarily a reason to drop them...like a bad habit. ;o)

1) I need to control my very spontaneous and intense happiness when a song comes on the radio, and Wifey is driving the car.
It has happened a few times (okay, maybe a few more than what most people would consider "few") and Wifey's heart is usually in her throat, because she thinks she's about to hit something or someone with the car. Apparently my "OH!" while jumping in the seat next to her can be confusing when we turning out onto the highway. My bad. But it certainly makes sure she's completely awake and aware - even more so than she would normally be. You're welcome, babe!

2) I bite my nails. Not all the time and not intensely, but I do bite my nails. Often it's if I'm either stressed out about something, or I'm watching a scary/interesting movie or reading a book, and I'm not aware of it at all really.

The really bad thing about this is the fact that I cannot stand the sound of other people biting their nails. I mean, I REALLY can't stand it. The hairs on the back of my neck stand, I grind my teeth and my pulse increases dramatically, while I fight the urge to yell "Would you STOP that, you psychotic freak!" I'm sure I look quite psychotic, when I try to restrain myself, and I've never actually verbally - or otherwise - attacked someone. Wifey is the only person who knows how much I detest the sound, so she's always aware which really calms me. However, she's also the one who likes to point out - a bit too much - when I'm biting my nails. But hey, as a gay girl, I can also point out to her that usually she's very happy I don't have long nails. Touché!



Not a gay girl...

3) Procrastination! Oh yes, it's a bitch... YouTube and Google, I blame thee! However, I also love thee. A LOT! And while procrastination is a bad and stressful thing in the long run, I have also stumbled across a lot of brilliant things in my attempts to distract myself from whatever task I actually had at hand and should be getting into.
That's how I have found several brilliant shows and movies, but also, I've found websites and people that have come to be a wonderful part of my day and overall joy in life. So really, it can't be all that bad. And it's how I found out about the TV shows "Mistresses", "Skins", "Los Hombres de Paco", "Las Aparicio", "Pretty Little Liars", "Glee" and many more. Shows that I had heard of, but didn't know to watch and probably wouldn't have chosen to watch, since I already have a billion other shows I like to watch.

4) I watch a lot of TV. I have learned SO much from it; Languages, knowledge about history, biology, people, music and life. So to sum it up, I watch a lot of TV. Always have, always will. I heart TV. Period.


I really do!

5) I also love movies and music and spend obscene amounts of time watching, listening and going to the Movie Theater or concerts whenever possible and relevant. But my bad habit is that I don't read enough books. And in that respect, the gay internet really hasn't helped me much, because it is taking a lot of time away from reading more books. But I LOVE the gay internet, so I guess I'll just have to find time elsewhere. Maybe I should just give up sleeping? Then again, I'm going on about six hours a night as it is. I love to stay up late and get up early... make the most of every day. I just love life and all there is to experience too much, I suppose. And that's hardly a bad thing!

I wish you all a beautiful weekend.
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